Is your sex life a little too vanilla? Maybe you want to try something new but want just the right amount of spice? Grab your lover and join us for today’s episode as we discuss how to get comfortable with getting more kinky. Inspired by an article in Glamour Magazine, hosts Laurie and George share ideas to get things heated up.
Laurie calls the list ‘kink light’ but it’s sure to help you take things up a notch. Remember here, consensual is key! Both partners need to communicate and have safety to be able to take more sexual risks. Suggestive texts, dirty talk, sexy outfits or none at all, using a mirror, switching normal roles, teasing.
Hooked yet? Hop on over to our instagram @foreplay_sextherapy and let us know what you would add to the list. Keep it kinky, y’all!
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Laurie Watson [00:01:54]:
What’s your kink, George?
George Faller [00:01:56]:
Ooh. Kink it up, baby.
Laurie Watson [00:01:58]:
Kink it up. Let’s talk about some kink.
Laurie Watson [00:02:04]:
Welcome to Foreplay sex therapy. I’m Dr. Lori Watson, your sex therapist.
George Faller [00:02:09]:
And I’m George Fowler, your couples therapist.
Laurie Watson [00:02:11]:
We are here to talk about sex.
George Faller [00:02:13]:
Our mission is to help couples talk about sex in ways that incorporate their body, their mind and their hearts.
Laurie Watson [00:02:21]:
And we have a little bit of fun doing it right. Garlic.
George Faller [00:02:24]:
Listen, and let’s change some relationships. Here we go. What do you got for us? Kink. I’m a kind of vanilla guy, so it’s. What are you talking about when you say kink, Laurie?
Laurie Watson [00:02:35]:
Well, I’m actually looking at a article from Glamour with Georgina Kim, who is the author. March 2, 2023. She’s got some really light kink here. We’re not going to take y’ all Too far. But I just thought it’d be fun to talk about this and. And see what you think.
Laurie Watson [00:02:55]:
So the first thing she’s got here is take it to a mirror. I think that’s a really sexy idea. Right. Watching yourself make love in front of a mirror.
George Faller [00:03:09]:
Well, it seems not that kinky to me, but it’s. I could see the spice in it. Kind of loosen things up. Yeah, this.
Laurie Watson [00:03:17]:
This is not a heavy kink list, I will say.
George Faller [00:03:21]:
All right, well, that’s. Well, with all kink, I think, or any sexual act. Right. We. We want to just ground it in what we talk about all the time. It’s got to work for both partners. Right. It’s got to be consensual.
George Faller [00:03:34]:
And a lot of times one person’s turn on, let’s go in front of the mirror. The other person, you know, maybe don’t like the way they look. They don’t want to go in front of the mirror. So really having this communication around. What are you looking for? This gas pedal. I think kinks are supposed to be gas pedals. Right. Things that spice it up, get us a little bit more in engaged, maybe learn something new and try something new.
George Faller [00:03:55]:
And I think that consensual, kind of both of them are wanting to do is super important.
Laurie Watson [00:04:00]:
I think so too. But I think there’s something great about the energy when you’re creative and you make a suggestion.
George Faller [00:04:07]:
Yeah.
Laurie Watson [00:04:08]:
Like, let’s take that mirror that’s standing up on the wall and make it horizontal and do it in front of it. I think that’s a really sexy idea.
George Faller [00:04:19]:
You get a little workout with some sex.
Laurie Watson [00:04:22]:
That’s right. Get a little workout with some sex and you’re watching. I mean, I think there’s something so exciting about the visual. And I know usually that’s more male that, you know, men seem to like the visual, but I. I think that’s really sexy to watch yourself. It’s. It’s like your own. It’s not a movie.
Laurie Watson [00:04:41]:
It’s nothing that you know is going to be recorded or it’s not somebody else. It’s just you watching you. So fun.
George Faller [00:04:50]:
I can see the. Like you said a lot of men are visual. So to have something.
George Faller [00:04:57]:
Forgiven when we’re not looking at our bodies, I think it’s you. You’re emphasizing the sexual, the erotic element of that. To just see like kind of what you’re doing, looking at parts maybe you would never look at before. There’s something erotic about that.
Laurie Watson [00:05:10]:
Yeah. I mean, there’s something erotic about looking at naked bodies. And when it’s your own naked body looking, I mean, it’s just. I think it’s really sexy. And I’ve certainly done this at times when I was not crazy about my own body and you know, had self esteem issues. But I still found it really sexual. Just seeing us together, it was like a whole new angle.
George Faller [00:05:37]:
I like that it’s a whole new angle. I know. Another one on the list is making movies. Right. That’s another form of watching yourself, watching your partner. I like how you frame that. You like seeing things you normally don’t see. That’s pretty erotic because it’s introducing.
George Faller [00:05:53]:
They look at that muscle as I pump this way or that way. Who gets to see your own butt cheeks? And maybe this mirror video or something is a way of doing that.
Laurie Watson [00:06:04]:
Yeah, yeah. I just think, you know, seeing the angles, the movement, you know, when you’re experiencing that, you’re not necessarily witnessing it and being able to do both things at the same time. You’re feeling, seeing all at once. It’s just multiple stimulation.
George Faller [00:06:25]:
And some people really get locked into their own head and their own body. And this is a way of expanding the frame. Right. Seeing something bigger than yourself. I just like. It introduces something. You might try and say, that was dumb, that I didn’t like that at all. And that’s totally fine.
George Faller [00:06:39]:
But just the idea which always trying to increase levels of engagement. It’s just something to play with.
Laurie Watson [00:06:45]:
Yeah, yeah. Okay. We’ve done this one before. Talking dirty. We’ve talked about this one quite a bit.
George Faller [00:06:55]:
Yeah.
Laurie Watson [00:06:55]:
You know, but obviously there’s a caution. Figure out the words that your partner doesn’t like. You don’t want to say words if your partner is going to be offended.
Laurie Watson [00:07:06]:
And again, I think probably the biggest thing about dirty talk is.
Laurie Watson [00:07:12]:
Being explicit.
Laurie Watson [00:07:15]:
You know, more than just dirty words. It’s like you’re saying things that you wouldn’t necessarily talk about at any other time.
George Faller [00:07:25]:
I’m laughing because a couple was just telling me a story. He was trying to talk dirty. So he’s like, call me daddy. I’m your daddy. You know, he’s. And she’s like, I really. That doesn’t work so well for me. I want to call you my daddy.
George Faller [00:07:38]:
So you got to get on the same page. But that they’re just trying to spice it up is fun.
Laurie Watson [00:07:44]:
Yeah, I know that there’s a lot of room for this to go wrong, but.
Laurie Watson [00:07:51]:
You know, there’s also a lot of room for this to go right to. To Be different.
Laurie Watson [00:07:58]:
To kind of let out that caveman, to let out that cave woman and just like be down and dirty with what you want, with what you want to do to each other. I think that that could be spicy.
George Faller [00:08:11]:
You’re right.
Laurie Watson [00:08:13]:
I’m not sure exactly that. That’s so kinky. But again, this. This is kink light.
George Faller [00:08:18]:
It’s kink light. Spice slash spice. Next one. Getting icy.
Laurie Watson [00:08:23]:
Getting icy. Ooh. Like you. You suck on ice before you give a blow job or before you go down on your partner, if you’re for a female. So gives a whole nother sensation. Ooh.
George Faller [00:08:36]:
I’ll use an ice just throughout the body. Right. As a way of heightening the liveness of your body.
Laurie Watson [00:08:44]:
Yeah, yeah. Also I think menthol, like cough drops and stuff that can actually be sort of icy.
George Faller [00:08:53]:
All right.
Laurie Watson [00:08:53]:
You can suck on menthol.
George Faller [00:08:54]:
And then my wife’s always cold, so maybe this will make her actually get hot. Who knows?
Laurie Watson [00:09:00]:
Your wife has a cold and so you’re gonna.
George Faller [00:09:02]:
No, she’s always cold, so I don’t see ice working too well. But maybe it’s one of those paradoxical interventions that will get her body to warm up.
Laurie Watson [00:09:12]:
Yeah, I think maybe ice in a warm bath.
George Faller [00:09:16]:
Nice. You know, are you getting double, double stimulation?
Laurie Watson [00:09:21]:
Right. You get the warmth of the bath and an ice cube or something. Making sure that she’s really, really warm already. Maybe ice is something for the summer, not the winter.
George Faller [00:09:32]:
Yeah, we’re all wintered out.
Laurie Watson [00:09:34]:
You got a lot of snow up in that New York place.
George Faller [00:09:39]:
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Laurie Watson [00:11:28]:
Send a racing text.
George Faller [00:11:29]:
Send a racy text. Kind of like dirty talking, right? Just build an anticipation and that some excitement that, hey, there’s more to us than just our to do lists. You know that random text that says, hey, baby, you know tonight’s your lucky night, right?
Laurie Watson [00:11:48]:
Yeah. I sent my husband a Skype recently. We were working at home and.
Laurie Watson [00:11:55]:
And I sent him a racy Skype. It was sort of like, go into the bedroom, get ready. Really racy. No, Take a shower. He was like, woo. Okay.
George Faller [00:12:15]:
That brings us into the next one. When you get them in the bedroom, you want to tie them up, Maybe use a blindfold?
Laurie Watson [00:12:21]:
Yeah. Okay, here we’re getting a little more kinky. Yeah.
Laurie Watson [00:12:27]:
So what do you think is so exciting about being tied up, George? You tell us.
George Faller [00:12:34]:
Oh, yes, I’m Mr. Vanilla to tell you. Huh? I like being in control. So I think the thing about being tied up is you’re out of control. It kind of forces some degree of surrender. Right. Most areas our lives, we’re always into control. So it’s nice to have a place where you can let that go and be at someone else’s kind of mercy.
George Faller [00:12:53]:
Right.
Laurie Watson [00:12:54]:
It’s a. Ooh, say that again. Yeah, exactly. Be it somebody else’s mercy.
George Faller [00:13:00]:
It definitely changes the power dynamics. Right. If you’re an Alpha, this is your chance maybe not to be. Or if you’re more laid back, you get to be the Alpha. I mean, it brings in a different personality in the bedroom.
Laurie Watson [00:13:13]:
Yeah, that’s New York. Or Alpha, just for the record.
George Faller [00:13:16]:
Yep.
Laurie Watson [00:13:17]:
Yeah, no, I. I agree. It’s.
Laurie Watson [00:13:21]:
Any. Anytime you’re stepping out of your kind of normal role in life and maybe switching it up sexually, you know, it can feel really Great. Because what we want sexually may not be what we want in our real life. We might never, ever want to be dominated in our real life, but sexually, you know, our body finds that exciting. It’s good. It’s. We don’t always have to stay along politically correct lines in bed as long as we have in general, respect and agreement. It can be fun to switch it up.
George Faller [00:13:54]:
I think kink does that. Right. It blurs boundaries. It makes us color outside the lines. It brings that those elements that normally wouldn’t be brought in to the bedroom.
Laurie Watson [00:14:06]:
Yeah. And kink in the kink community, it’s very consensual. I mean, there is a lot of talking about what you want. There’s agreement, there’s safe words.
George Faller [00:14:19]:
Yeah. I think kink community has really helped the rest of us get better at communicating. I mean, they’re expert communicators and that’s. I think that’s critical to all great lovers. Right. You gotta say, hey, I like that. No, stop doing that. And that’s.
George Faller [00:14:35]:
A lot of times you don’t actually know what you like until you try something. So communication is critical to everything we’re talking about here today.
Laurie Watson [00:14:43]:
I agree. And just another kinky turn. Rather than just being tight. Let me, let me suggest one thing for people who might want to think about being tied up, but it’s just too much. You know, you can be tied up psychologically, like, okay, you can. You just have to lay there and don’t move. You’re not allowed to move. That’s a psychological tie up.
Laurie Watson [00:15:06]:
You could tie silk scarves to the bedposts and have your partner hold them.
George Faller [00:15:12]:
Right.
Laurie Watson [00:15:12]:
Rather than be tied to them. And so that might give them both the sense of psychologically, you know, being still, but they could get out of it if they wanted to. Or, you know, there’s lots of rubber kinds of ties that you can slip your hand out of.
George Faller [00:15:32]:
Yeah.
George Faller [00:15:34]:
I like the intentionality of trying to surrender and just see what it’s like. And you have a choice always to not and to kind of go back into control if you want. But I also like the flip side of it. Where do you get to be the one who’s more assertive if that’s not your role? That that’s a chance to mix it up, to see what it’s like. You’re on top, you’re calling the shots. Maybe you don’t like the pressure, that. And that’s cool, but, you know, it’s just. It adds a little bit extra to the mix.
Laurie Watson [00:16:01]:
So this crazy that we’re talking about these things. It’s just a little crazy.
George Faller [00:16:05]:
Yeah. Well, that brings up spanking and blindfolding. Right. These are all elements of blindfolding. You know, not knowing what you’re seeing. Right. Having to trust your partner, you know, that, that not knowing, I think can be a turn on for a lot of people. It forces us to develop our other senses as we can’t depend on our vision.
Laurie Watson [00:16:27]:
Right? Exactly. Okay, let’s take a break and come back about spanking.
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Laurie Watson [00:18:33]:
Okay. Spank them. Spanking can be hot, she says. That’s. That being said, it’s best not to give a wallop or startle your partner in the moment. Yeah, that. That would kill it. I think spanking absolutely has to be consensual, and you have to know why you’re doing it, and the partner has to want it.
Laurie Watson [00:18:53]:
Right. I think some of it might be the juxtaposition of pain. I know this is really a killjoy thing to say, but I think it is kind of a triumph over the childhood part of having been spanked. And suddenly now it’s erotic.
Laurie Watson [00:19:12]:
You know, it’s like you. You transform that in your brain, and it becomes an erotic thing to be spanked. Or, you know, if you come too fast, I’m going to spank you or something. And suddenly that goal of having to reach climax and striving for that, which is always not a good thing, you know, becomes a negative. And so, of course, your body is free to be aroused. A lot of people use it that way.
George Faller [00:19:41]:
Okay.
Laurie Watson [00:19:41]:
And pulling of the hair. Here’s another idea.
Laurie Watson [00:19:47]:
You know, I think it’s. That could be either. Either gender, right? Either gender. You could pull their hair.
George Faller [00:19:55]:
Yeah. We’re not disclosing too much here, but I can see even when I have an orgasm, I pull my own hair sometimes. So what’s that about?
Laurie Watson [00:20:04]:
It’s.
George Faller [00:20:04]:
I only noticed that the other day as I’m getting more curious about what I do, because most of the time I don’t pay attention to that. But, you know, hey, listen, I think it’s just another sensation if. If you’re pulling hair, you’re, you know, biting, or you’re, you know, squeezing nipples, and you’re introducing, like, a pressure pain element that’s. This, again, has to be super consensual.
Laurie Watson [00:20:27]:
Right.
Laurie Watson [00:20:30]:
And have you given yourself permission to pull your hair?
George Faller [00:20:33]:
I have. It’s just. Yes.
Laurie Watson [00:20:37]:
That’s good. That’s really good.
George Faller [00:20:39]:
I feel more comfortable pulling my hair.
Laurie Watson [00:20:40]:
No, you’re like, in a. It’s just kind of in this uncontrollable fit. Right. As you have an orgasm, you just. I can see how that would happen and kind of how it would work, too, how it would feel.
George Faller [00:20:53]:
Timing is important with all of these.
George Faller [00:20:57]:
Interventions we’re talking about. And, you know, if you pull your partner’s hair too early, that might not work so well. Right. So.
Laurie Watson [00:21:05]:
And I think, you know, maybe we’ve all seen those movies of.
Laurie Watson [00:21:10]:
You know, hair pulling where they’re just so frantic to get a really deep kiss in that they just pull their hair and position them into a, you know, a deep French kiss. I mean, I think some of what’s exciting about that is the passion.
George Faller [00:21:25]:
Yeah. But they never show in the movies when actually, you know, you grab too hard and you’re choking me with your tongue. And, you know, that’s maybe doesn’t work as well.
Laurie Watson [00:21:33]:
But maybe it doesn’t work as well.
George Faller [00:21:36]:
I like the whole category, which is usually attached to kink. Right. Spanking, light choking, grabbing of hair, pinching. You know, all of these are elements that are adding something new for people. And.
Laurie Watson [00:21:52]:
So I’ve heard a lot of the negative about choking, but you told me that one of the things you’ve heard with people, with clients is that they. That’s a turn on for, particularly for females is. Do you think it’s more like the. I don’t know, the beast dominating them or something? It feels like they have to surrender or something.
George Faller [00:22:15]:
I don’t know.
George Faller [00:22:18]:
I’m not sure.
Laurie Watson [00:22:19]:
He says the withdrawer.
George Faller [00:22:21]:
I don’t know.
George Faller [00:22:25]:
I think that’s just that element of riskiness that.
George Faller [00:22:30]:
We know a lot of women have. We always talk about safety, which is so critical and, you know, but there is a threat response that kind of introduces, you know, danger for some people. Can be a little bit of a turn on.
Laurie Watson [00:22:45]:
Yeah, true.
George Faller [00:22:48]:
That’s why this stuff has to be.
Laurie Watson [00:22:50]:
So consensual, though, and has to be so safe. And you have to know your limits, for sure.
George Faller [00:22:55]:
You have to be safe to take a risk.
Laurie Watson [00:22:59]:
You do sexually. You have to be safe to take a risk. That is for sure.
George Faller [00:23:05]:
I really would like couples to have this conversation outside the bedroom. Like, go through this list. We’ll put it on the website. Or you can just, you know, talk about. I never thought about maybe that would be interesting.
Laurie Watson [00:23:16]:
Yeah.
George Faller [00:23:16]:
Before you jump into just trying them.
Laurie Watson [00:23:19]:
I agree. I think that if people even talking about this kind of stuff, they could turn on to each other. They could learn something about each other.
George Faller [00:23:31]:
Mm.
Laurie Watson [00:23:33]:
Figure out why their partner pulls their hair during orgasm.
George Faller [00:23:38]:
Getting loud’s another one.
George Faller [00:23:41]:
This is. We have this in a best sex talk. Some people want to communicate, others don’t. But just to try to be a different voice, a louder voice, a quieter voice, just to play around with. It’s amazing how many People don’t talk, you know, and have been silencing themselves. And this being loud is.
George Faller [00:24:02]:
Another element, right, Laurie?
Laurie Watson [00:24:04]:
I think so too. Whenever, if I ever get loud, one of my favorite things afterwards to tell my husband is, yeah, I think I came.
Laurie Watson [00:24:14]:
Just to check around. Or he’ll say that. He’ll say that thing to me too. He’ll say, did you come? You know, when it’s quite clear I did.
George Faller [00:24:25]:
Well, you enjoy expressing it in the full range of. Of your breath work.
Laurie Watson [00:24:32]:
Sometimes it’s just uncontrollable, George. It just happens.
George Faller [00:24:36]:
Well, I think a lot of men have been, you know, if you grow up masturbating, secretly being quiet all the time, you just have decades of training being quiet, not wanting to be discovered like that impacts your ability to be vocal. So I think we lose some of our voice that we might have if we were totally free and uninhibited. So I think it’s something to play around with.
Laurie Watson [00:24:58]:
Yeah, I think it’s. I mean, you want that reciprocated, right? I think hearing your partner climax and having them say something or groan or something or words are good too, but just that kind of that inaudible or that audible.
Laurie Watson [00:25:20]:
Outside of their control response. So sexy to hear that.
George Faller [00:25:25]:
I don’t. It also unleashes the rest of your body when you. Right. If your voice is loud and before you know it, your body’s expressing itself more.
George Faller [00:25:36]:
You get a little shake with that loudness.
Laurie Watson [00:25:39]:
For sure the shake.
George Faller [00:25:41]:
For sure the shake.
Laurie Watson [00:25:42]:
For sure the shake.
Laurie Watson [00:25:45]:
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Laurie Watson [00:26:45]:
How about letting your partner watch you masturbate?
Laurie Watson [00:26:50]:
So vulnerable. I don’t know that this is kink. This to me is just straight up sex ed. You know, you gotta, like, show your partner how you do it so they can do it to you.
George Faller [00:27:01]:
That’s pretty straightforward. What about the next one? Experiment with role plays.
George Faller [00:27:10]:
I think sometimes it makes it easier to try these new moves if you’re role playing. I want to be loud today because I’m going to be this guy who’s loud. Or, you know, it’s sometimes easy to step outside of who we normally are when we take on a different role.
Laurie Watson [00:27:27]:
Yeah, it gives yourself permission, it gives you as a couple permission to maybe do these things that you wouldn’t necessarily do. Like maybe we’re the kink couple today. You know, you’re the submissive, you’re the dominant, and, you know, you kind of assign what it’s going to look like and just play with it. I think in the beginning that may feel awkward, like, ooh, I’m doing things that I wouldn’t necessarily do. I’m a little awkward with acting. But I think it can exercise those parts inside that otherwise don’t have the freedom to come out like this. Says it accesses your shadow self, which is so true. You know, I think in sex there are parts, like, there are parts we fantasize about, parts that we’ve seen, you know, parts that we’d like to be and we don’t get any practice in it.
Laurie Watson [00:28:20]:
And so we can kind of become stayed in what we do in bed. And this is an opportunity to do.
George Faller [00:28:26]:
Something, shake it up. As long as it aligns with your values. Any of these things, if, you know, it doesn’t feel genuine or authentic, and that’s totally fine too. I mean, these are just. They also add on this list just external things. Introducing a pillow, introducing a toy, introducing a whip, Introducing a swing, Introducing, like something else that just. Just adds that extra element.
Laurie Watson [00:28:50]:
Wait, a toy, a pillow, a whip. You went by that really fast. It’s kind of like nipple clamps.
George Faller [00:28:58]:
Where’d that whip come from? I don’t know.
Laurie Watson [00:29:00]:
Wait a second.
George Faller [00:29:01]:
Go back at the submissive part of it. See, maybe I’m tapping into a part of myself. I don’t know here.
Laurie Watson [00:29:06]:
Laurie, I don’t see the whip in this.
George Faller [00:29:09]:
Yeah, I guess I just had it in my. I was in a role play.
Laurie Watson [00:29:13]:
I went to a whiplay, the dominant role play, and suddenly there was a Whip in the room. I get it, I get it. Forego panties. I think that’s just so fun, right? Go out to dinner and then tell your partner, by the way, I’m not wearing any panties. That’s kind of fun.
George Faller [00:29:31]:
Oh, the raincoat. Just showing up in the. In the raincoats with nothing underneath.
Laurie Watson [00:29:36]:
There you go. There you go. And then your partner is really responsive.
George Faller [00:29:43]:
Is an interesting one. Having sex on your period.
Laurie Watson [00:29:47]:
Yes. I mean, I gotta say, that day before your period starts is like a big day for a big orgasm. A lot of women are. If they would feel it, if they would let themselves feel it, they can feel so horny that day. You know, just all the weight kind of in your pelvis is such a good thing. Although it often brings on your period. And maybe. Maybe that’s hard for some people to do because it’s messy, but I just think sex is so messy.
Laurie Watson [00:30:21]:
What difference does it make? You put down a towel. No big deal.
George Faller [00:30:24]:
I love test we did on. On periods. I mean, I learned so much. So, so many men just never talk about and know so little about it to. To really be more empathetic. And, like, this is another still time to connect so many couples. It’s like, all right, you’re on your period. Like, you have an attitude.
George Faller [00:30:42]:
We just won’t talk. Think about sex. Let’s just do our separate things during this time. And, you know, why not mix it up and say, hey, there are plenty of things we still could be doing. You know, this doesn’t mean our relationship ends because you have your period.
Laurie Watson [00:30:55]:
Yeah, there’s lots that could be done. I mean, I. I talked to some guy who was saying he really didn’t understand how a tampon worked. Like, he didn’t get it. You know, like, how does it go in? How does it. You know, it stops the blood. Like, then it comes. How does it come out? What do you do with it? Like, I do think this whole thing is shrouded in mystery for men.
George Faller [00:31:19]:
It definitely is. And worse, it’s like, we get an attitude with it. It’s, like, frustrating to us because the timing sucks. Instead of being empathetic, which is like, who wants to be in pain and bleeding but going through hormonal changes? So I do think it’s a good conversation to have. And if you don’t want to have sex on your period, you should be talking about your period.
Laurie Watson [00:31:38]:
Yeah, I mean, and I grew up in an era where you weren’t really supposed to show anybody that you were on your period. Like, all that stuff was to be kept in a cupboard and you had to make sure everything was, you know, like there was no evidence of it in the trash can. It was, you know, you just had to be really, really careful and.
George Faller [00:31:57]:
But while you’re in the cupboard, that’s another one. Food. Right? Bring it out. Little different things to add a little strawberry or some whipped cream or some cereal or steak or, I don’t know, some wine, whatever rocks your boat. But it’s, it’s. They’ll need to be separate. The kitchen in the bedroom.
Laurie Watson [00:32:18]:
Right. Drinking a shot off your partner’s belly. Shot of alcohol.
George Faller [00:32:24]:
Well, listen, this might be some of this light kink or heavy kink, but it’s just a fun conversation to have with your partner. Right. We all, we know the emotional bond and the communication is key, but being able to have fun is also important. And I think sometimes this can just bring some of that into the bedroom, which we all need. Yep.
Laurie Watson [00:32:44]:
Sounds like a kinky night.
George Faller [00:32:47]:
Kinky night.
Laurie Watson [00:32:48]:
Okay. Thanks for listening.
George Faller [00:32:51]:
Keep it kinky, baby.
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